Sunday, November 22, 2009

Sorryism

Sorry  … I did almost spent 15 minutes on thinking how to start my sarcastic and satirical anguish towards this so called self proclaimed sympathetic and empathetic five letter word in English which has the capability of rebinding any relation in this world and has been hijacked by the corporate culture. This word has been percolated in our daily life so much so that we are using it on par with its sibling word “Thanks”…… Literally it’s a good sign of Humanity that shows our concern towards our fellow beings. Then again its your turn to ask, “Mahesh, what’s your problem?”. You are right as usual. I have a problem, but not with the word ‘sorry’ , but with the the way people saying sorry. If you analyse properly, when we are not punctual we say “sorry”…… when we don’t greet on someone’s birthday, we say ‘sorry’…… when we don’t call our dear ones at stipulated time, we say ‘sorry’………….when we cant get what the other person said, we promptly say ‘sorry’……… when we sneeze in public, we say humbly ‘sorry’…….when someone asks you something and you don’t know, we reply ‘sorry’ ……….when we hear someone’s death , we say formal ‘sorry’……….whenever something blah blah happens, we blah blah ‘sorry’……….. Wow! What a culture and concern. We are improving and evolving day by day as human beings. Really do we? No, we aren’t 

Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we had humiliated someone just because he couldn't converse in English? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we had looked down upon someone who is very much rural? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we had thrown water on someone’s only hopes? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we had underestimated someone just because he was yet to get the so called posh, bubbled, pompous, decorated corporate job which we got earlier? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we had misguided deliberately someone so that he should not surpass us in this wicked competitive world? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we had cunningly avoided someone who wanted us to share our over-rated technical skills? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we made someone to feel inferior through our superior attitudinal gestures? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we hardly cared for someone who is desperate to share his grievances with you? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we had shown bias and prejudice towards someone who is physically unattractive? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we had exploited someone's honesty, sincerity and innocence? ...  Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we had shattered someone’s confidence levels so much so that he went into depression in-spite of knowing that once we were in the same position of someone? Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when our harsh words and pierced into someone's heart?. Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when our superiority complex dominated the introvert's territory? Finally, Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ even after realising that we had made a mistake/blunder ? Is it Ego ? or Self respect?
Yes, we are improving and evolving day by day as Arrogant, Attitudinal, Self-centered, Egoistic human beings who are busy in winning the rat race of corporate Consumerism. We are simply tagged and branded. Most of the times, the brand image and tags speak more than the words from human heart.

I am grudging so much because our timely and whole hearted sorry could have stopped someone in a malady of depression from attempting SUICIDE. Its true…… we are habituated to plastic sorry, we need smile sorry, we project corporate sorry, we display casual sorry, we carry ready-made sorry, but we forgot the true essence n feel of Sorry…………..Think once ……How human-full it will be if our timely words and gestures towards someone may make him to feel concerned and may make him to think twice before he takes some extreme step.
We are not saying sorry where it matters the most. Of course all we need is a sincere and compassionate SORRY………………….. Where is such sorry? Do we have such sorry? If you have such sorry then answer the below question.

" Why didn't we say ‘sorry’ when we hardly thought about donating towards recent flood victims?"

Now its up to you to choose which type of sorry you want to say……

I hope we will stop polluting and corrupting the gentle word Sorry.I want to say sorry to the word ‘sorry’ for obvious reasons.


Sorry "SORRY"…….!

15 comments:

Roshmi Sinha said...

Quite a thought provoking post...

Well, as they say... 'angrez chale gaye... sorry aur thank you chhod gaye'...

btw, the English left India... with tons of riches, including the'Kohinoor'... without so much as a Thank you...

Guria said...

Very angry post! :)
We say sorry when we feel sorry, otherwise it is hypocrisy, isn't it? As for some of the reasons you showed when we say 'sorry', the word does carry a dual meaning...
And I disagree that a sorry can make a suicidal person less prone. Think about it. :)

Mahesh Kalaal said...

@ Roshmi...

You are correct. Earlier English rules India and now India is running on English.
Thanks for you response

Mahesh Kalaal said...

@ Guria....

Yes buddy.....I am angry....Thanks for getting my intention in the right way. Thanks for raising a general and valid rational point.

""And I disagree that a sorry can make a suicidal person less prone. Think about it. :)""

The point came out of a real time incident where the victim wrote in his suicide note that "....at least, they didnt say sorry to me".
As you said, though we cannot generalise the point, my intention was to show up to what extent the word sorry can impact a person.
Anyways, may be the word sorry is obscure too :)

Thanks again buddy :)

BK Chowla said...

You are not being sarcastic,you are being real and true.
I am not sorry when I say this.
I mean what I said.

aativas said...

You are right. We say 'sorry' without really thinking much about it or many times without feeling sorry. To say sorry is part of 'good manners' that we are taught about. I guess saying 'sorry' is just a beginning, to correct our actions - either stupid or selfish or egoistic.. whatever is the case - is the next stop. But generally we stop at the first step itself!

Rachana Shakyawar said...

@ Mahesh

Well written!
But I believe that not everyone uses a readymade Sorry and not everytime...sometimes there are indeed few genuine people behind those soory expressions...however; it depends on you at least 80% how you perceive or suspiciously receive the true emotions and 20% on how actually the other person maintained while saying.

Perhaps, there are also some who exist in this world and feel very small and disrespected if asked or expected to say sorry!
Often when somebody says sorry to me for something…I really don’t like to hear that…but then I also respect his/her feelings at that moment for feeling so sad.

Having said that all, I also consider the fact that saying sorry is NOT that important rather feeling that low and acting to improve must looked up on to.



Now before, I end up portraying my post on Sorryism in your post…I quite'a remember that just two posts back you said,"..Wait for couple of days. You will read why I am so mean and what mad me to write this..."

I wonder, is this post …what you meant then...or still have to wait for next couple of posts...

You make my thoughts juggle so much…and I thoroughly enjoy that…
Keep up with such wonderful posts..

Mahesh Kalaal said...

@ Chowla ji

Thanks a lot for your straight and quite profound words....
I mean it too :) :) :)

Mahesh Kalaal said...

@ aativas....

Wow....your analysis did convey my intention and it did complement the post....
Thanks a ton buddy :) :) :)
I agree with you....
We do stop at first step :)

Mahesh Kalaal said...

@ Rachana,

Yes, you are correct too. The concept of sorry is so variable and subjective that you can see different responses in the comments in different dimensions, though everyone is supporting for compassion towards fellow humans.
I am not generalising the sorry-ism rather its my dimension through my experiences. My purpose was to bring out the thoughts on sorry from the readers and am happy for that.

I would like to ask you to read "aativas...." comment on this post.

Anyways, thanks a ton for the pains you took to write such a detailed comment with analysis and synthesis

Coming to the sequence to "My new Friend " I am posting it tonight, especially for you :).

Thanks a bunch buddy for your genuine and impacting responses :)
Keep letting your spark on this blog :)

cheers
mahesh :) :) :)

Rachana Shakyawar said...

@ Mahesh

Yeah..I did go through Aativas’s comment and find him quite gem person to have admitted his honest thoughts and perception. I liked his honesty!
However, cannot ignore the fact that your post brought so many different shades in thoughts.


P.S. Waiting eagerly for you next post..umm…juts trying to guess…which emotion this time you gonna explore;)

Mahesh Kalaal said...

@ Rachana,

Thanks for your time buddy :)...
I will post it tonight. I assure you that it is very boring and grey. :)

Yemiledu said...

Hey nicely said...
I will say Sorry for the word Sorry!
:~) But Sorry is the most wonderful word like THANKS until it is genuinely said.

blommer22 said...

too much sorry in here...dizzy.. :P

Anonymous said...

I read this one after a long time gud one ��

Sorry means everything if you say it whole heartedly,
It means nothing if you say it with mouth

People say no thank you ,sorry (filmy dialogue)

If something gud is happening by saying sorry
Better say it!