Mother's Day, Motherly!

Mother Love. It gets more space in media around May second Sunday. Celebrations, seminars, bouquets, interviews, greetings, blogs, gifts n more. That is a feel good factor indeed. Of course, mother love has been existing in this evolving and uncertain universe, as a most certain thing, since the inception of life.  I had read in many books, magazines and articles about greatness and divinity of mother's love. I had watched and felt it in innumerable Indian movies. Anyway, what is 'Mother Love?'
 

Mother love, to put in a simple way, "The love of a mother towards her children/kids."  Let's say it again, clearly. "The love of a mother towards 'her' children/kids, ONLY her children/kids. Sometimes more love for, and only, her favorite kid among her kids.  Does it mean that mother love is bounded by certain parameters of being Self? Is mother love really altruistic and selfless?

When a mother loves her children, is it the love towards the children or is it the self love? I mean a mother loves her kids only because they are extension of her physical identity or does she really love the person in the kids? If a woman loves her smile, what do we call it, love or self love? In that case whether loving her biological extensions is self love or real love on kids?  I am not saying that self love is a bad thing. Loving one is quite a healthy factor in a person. My question is whether mother's love is all about just an extension of loving oneself/herself?  

When a mother says, "I love my kid", is she loving the 'my' first and the 'kid' next? Is it the 'My' factor makes her to support every act/feature/character of her kids and love everything related to her kid. Is it supporting and loving herself? Does she really love the person in her kids? Does the mother instinct in a woman take over the ability to love the person in her kids? Is mother love motherly?

My intention is not to lessen mother love. It is  a fact that almost all the living creatures are being genetically programmed to love their off-springs and vice versa. Every mother is a  beautiful person  from their children perspective and vice versa. My question is if at all mother's love is so special/unique/eternal/etc, "Can a mother really love her biological kid and a non-biological kid with equal intensity? Isn't the "My" kid syndrome pop up at every instance she showers her love towards 'her' kids?

The most striking feature in mother's love is the ability of a mother to sacrifice anything for her kids. Sometimes she can go to any extent to serve her child needs and security. This trait is present in every living being. Is Mother love one more instinct/trait or love? 

Mother love, most often, is defined as the only self less love where the person loving you loves you irrespective of whether you love her back or not. Is this something that a mother loves 'herself' in the kids and hence no expectations, only sacrifices?  Is it ‘My’ kid syndrome??

Contrary to this syndrome, we have many such instances in nature, where animals of one species feeding offspring of another species. I call such love as mother love, in fact, motherly mother love . It can be offered to anyone by anyone in this world. Indeed it do deserves celebrations and honors in a much higher level than the invisible Dog God.
You may doubt if i know what love is. May be i don't, because there are as many perceptions of love as the number of persons want to define it.

Finally.....self love, instincts, love, selfishness.....these are just names from different interpretations to one eternal and ever evolving-consummate-unadulterated-basic-essential-crucial-necessary-affectionate emotion of every creature's life called "Mother Love".

Irrespective of the above logic, my foremost intention is to raise a much relevant and substantial question to rake an honest answer within us.

"Do we love our mother just because she is our natural/biological mom by chance or do we really love her for the person she is?"

Had the 'My' mom syndrome peeped into your motherly mother love anytime? Am i blowing an invisible balloon? I guess for all these quite out of the box interpretative analysis, the only solution is  ....

"When logic stops, love starts....."
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"I love my mom, because she is more than love to me"












 P.S:  This is my entry for Blogadda’s ” WRITE A TRIBUTE TO YOUR MOM “contest on  account of Mother’s day..

Best mom
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Women Reservation

 Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts to succeed. If I fail, no one will say, ‘She doesn't have what it takes.’ They will say, ‘Women don't have what it takes’ — Clare Boothe Luce


Enthusiasm is not a reasonable substitute for clarity. The willingness to be politically correct has overtaken the directive to be politically sensible. Why do women need reservation? Taken purely as a demographic identity, they constitute the most powerful force in electoral politics. Every second voter is a woman. If she were motivated purely by gender, the majority of MPs would already be women. 
      
But women do not constitute a homogenous group, and all women are not equal. Just as men have the advantage over women in what should be a gender-neutral election to the Lok Sabha, some women have an in-built advantage over others, owing to caste or faith, or socio-economic factors. The logic that provides reservations for women also sustains the rational, logical and objective argument for sub-reservations. The principle is the same.

    Empowerment must be the right of all women, not just some women

  So, i  am asking all those who say yes to women reservations, including me, " Are we ready to provide sub-reservations to women from backward, downtrodden and oppressed classes within the 33% share they have won now? Isn't the real women empowerment constitute the representation of women from all social spheres and classes of the country? Just having some political and legal measures will not serve the real purpose, we need Attitudinal Reforms. We want to see a scenario where women would be competing against other women and not men.

Though i ended the post here, one of my well wishers suggested me the quote..

"There are only two kinds of people in this world..FEMALE and NON-FEMALE...which category do you come in..?"

I dont support this quote as it sounds irrationally feministic and it doesn't mean that i support Masculinism ..... I dont support any isms.... Is it mandatory that we need to take sides and keep on arguing which is the better half rather than reaping the profits of being a one single entity called Humans

The above quote leads to the contrary and obvious quote advocated by some groups....... "There are only two kinds of people in this world..MALE and NON-MALE...which category do you come in..?"..... It depicts Masculinism and hence the clash of isms keeps on popping for ever..... Why comparison? Why we need indefinite oscillation in Complex gravity?

I would prefer "There are only two kinds of people in this world....FEMALE and MALE". In fact i would go one more mile to say "There are only two kinds of people in this world..Humans and NON-Humans...which category do you come in..?"

So i vote for Heads/Tails rather than Heads/non-heads or Tails/non-tails
and i call it wisdomism which is meant to demagnify all isms....
Now i guess u may ask Why Wisdomism if at all i dont support any isms...? Any que?

Anyway, I strongly advocate the strategy "We should use isms as a means to reach the end called humanity, rather than allowing isms and end in itself and making humans as a means"

PS : I thank Rachana for her constructive feedback without which this post is less comprehensive.

Who is the Vice-president of India ???

Who is the current vice-president of India(as on Feb 18 2010)?

Bhairon Singh Shekhawat?  Naaah ?

Hey, It is not a quiz here. I have been asking this question to many people i came across since few weeks, and not surprisingly, very very few could answer. Many of them include software engineers, students, government employees, IAS aspirants(ahem!), NRIs etc. The first thing I noticed in them is that though they had the  answer somewhere in the grey areas of their busy brain and they were unable to retrieve  it from the hidden database. Some were totally blank when they faced this question.  Few of them asked/doubted whether i know the answer or not.  One of my friends felt relieved when he told me the answer after few minutes of database mining . Interestingly, few people were so obsessed with this question that they took time to find out the answer. Some of them smsed the answer after a day or two. Of course some embarrassments for civil service aspirants who chewed water and gave some lame excuses.  The most common  and first answer i got from most of them is  that our vice-president is a 'Muslim'. Am not sure how many of you are going to search in Google or Wikipedia to find the answer.

My concern is not the answer but the reason for missing the answer. Is it because of the scarce media attention vice-president gets ? Is it because that he is just a symbolic head of some legislative body? Is it because of the happening factor that every bit of data is readily available for us in just few clicks ? Is it the name of the vice-president which is quite uncommon to remember? Is it because of the word 'vice' which means sub ordinate?  Is it because of our life style and changing attitudes ? Is it because of the diminishing trend towards the static data?  Is it because that we will  know about him in future when he becomes President of India, probably. May be, i guess, it is quite common and natural to ignore vice-presidents, irrespective of the period we live in.

Am not going to draw any conclusions from this question. I know that it doesn't matter whether we know the answer or not. The most embarrassing moment can be when a kid will pose this question to us. This post is an attempt to create an opportunity to know more about the vice president of India, who is quite multi faceted academician and intellectual. He is really a Wise-President.What made me to write this post is the sentence i came across which was quoted by the current Vice-president of India.

"No citizen is apolitical; as a citizen, by definition, has to take interest in public affairs."

By the way, have you googled or wikipeded for the answer?

PS: To know his name as well as about him, click

1. http://vicepresidentofindia.nic.in/profile.asp

What If...

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I am standing in front of a mirror, a mirror of reflective transparency, cruel honesty and naked confessions . I am standing in front of the mirror without masks. We often wear masks to satisfy societal obligations and expectations ..... in the name of Morality ..... and we call it as LIFE. Many unprocessed  and unrefined  thoughts have started streaming out of my brain strata. Is it brain or mind ?  I am  standing in front of the mirror with closed eyes, but still i could sense  the  image reflection. Questions with answers and without answers are popping out, one by one. Can I do erase the imprints of social programming ? What if I really confess.What If I .... ?

Me :  I don’t think I took right decisions. I  just took decisions and made them right.

Mirror : No one can make decisions right. We can just keep on making them till they turn out right.

Me : Were all the failures happened due to lack of work or hard work? Are both the same?

Mirror : Work is to achieve what you want and hard work is when you  don’t enjoy the process. Had you worked much harder?

Me : Why do i try to avoid Failure every time?

Mirror : Because failure makes you feel guilty of the knowledge you already have.

Me : Why do I hate Failure so much? Why Hate? 

Mirror :  Isn't it HATE an emotion which makes you put time, energy and effort towards something which should be just ignored. 

  

Me :  Philosophies made me to think/rethink and thoughts made me to philosophize. Am i becoming philosophical? Am i a tool in the hands of many philosophies?

Mirror : After all Philosophy is a theory and strategy should be your   very own individual way of twisting and turning it to suit your specific practicalities, rather than succumbing to the philosophical and moral obligations. Practically, philosophy can be and should be used to mainly psyche others and sometimes yourself that even your wrong things are also right.

Me : I have come across people, including me, who say everything about philosophy but achieved nothing.

Mirror: Philosophy is about understanding achievement and it does not necessarily make you achieve. You can study a snake’s agility, behaviour and the nature of its poison but you can’t become the snake. 

Me : So, philosophy is a rich man’s time pass.

Mirror: I would say that it is an intelligent man’s time pass and a foolish man’s time out.

Me : Is my rationalistic, agnostic and anthropological approach towards this world making me out of the rat race?

Mirror : Hallucination if found in an individual level is called mental disorder and if found on mass level is called Religion/Consumerism and finally leads to rat race.

Me : Ignorance is a polite word for dumbness and arrogance is a harsh word for intellect.  So, being Ignorant will work in this arrogant world . What say ?

Mirror:  Ignorance is not knowing, dumbness is knowing and not understanding, arrogance is not caring about knowing and intellect is knowing your ignorance. 

Me : Mirror, am i seeking motivation through you ?

Mirror : The real reason of motivation comes from the guilt of being unworthy.

  I would say it comes from a fear of being unworthy.

Me : A pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity and an optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty. Isn't it too idealistic?

Mirror : And an inbetweenist like you sees a difficult opportunity as an opportunistic difficulty. Hahaha... :)

Me : I am totally in chaos regarding my social relations(real and virtual) these days...

Mirror : You are not obligated to someone who likes you. You are  obligated to whom you like.  Think again.

Me : Then again, why don't people understand me  properly ?

Mirror : It’s not their business to understand you. It’s your business to make them understand. 

Me : Sometimes I feel like running away from this Information/ Knowledge obsessed world. Life has become more uncertain.

Mirror : Knowledge is a threat to the body and ignorance is a threat to the mind. A mixture of innocence and danger always creates more terror mainly because of the unexpectedness. That’s the reason most horror films feature women and children as ghosts.

Me : Why I am confused so much these days?

Mirror : That’s because thoughts arise from rational thinking and deeds many times are triggered by emotions and the result of those deeds will again influence the thoughts and thus the cycle of contradictions will keep continuing which will appear as yours and hence more inconsistencies.

Me : Why is belief in Ghosts called superstition and belief in God called faith? 

Mirror : That’s because superstition can be done away with but lack of faith can tear up the very fabric of both you and the society you live in. 

Me : Mostly you have responded when you are negated or when something of brilliance is said and you ignore both praise and abuse.

Mirror: That’s because praise and abuse don’t matter in the larger scheme of things whereas the earlier two add to both  knowledge and thinking.  

Me : But Mirror, aren't you selfish? Your answers reflect so.

Mirror : That’s because I want to live my life completely on my own terms and that’s an ultimate act of selfishness in the purest of its forms. 

Me : Experiencing things through your thought process always makes me believe that there is no absolute truth.

Mirror: Yes. That’s because there’s absolutely no absolute truth. 

Me : All this crap is just  to ask you one Question. What is Success? How can  i become successful?

Mirror : Success is for others and being successful is for yourself.

Me : What if I don't agree with you?

Mirror : Nothing happens except your life goes on with the flavours of Hypocrisy and self deception .

Me : Is it true....?

Mirror : Yes, absolutely true . 

Me : But you said, " There is no absolute truth".

Mirror : Truth is absolute – you just have to arrive at the right evidence with the right interpretation. 

Me : Mirrorrrr.......You are sick.

Mirror : Yes, because I am your imagination .

 Finally when i opened my eyes, there is nothing, neither the mirror nor the image, except some ambiguous answers. Somehow, still, i could sense the mirror.What if ..... ?

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Questions-2

I have a question for you, may be, only a question.

What do you call a person who paints a wonderful master-piece with care, attention, patience, passion, zeal, innovation, enthusiasm and finally destroys  it deliberately  after its completion, for the sake of fun?

What do you call a person whose  help will be directly proportional to the intensity and magnitude of flattery/praises showered, daily, by you along with gifts?

What do you call a person who takes revenge on you by not helping you or by harming you, just because you did not wish him on his birthday?

What do you call a person who  tries to satisfy his ego, every moment, by proving his domination  and superiority complex through his numerous tricks in all situations ?

What do you call a person who never gives you a rational valid reason for his deliberate deeds and conscious actions which generate pain and anguish in  you?

What do you call such person?

Mad?

Arrogant?

Selfish?

Hypocrite?

Showy?

Egoistic/Egocentric?

Before I was trying to publish this post, I heard someone saying to me,

" Wait ..... I know the answer for your question"

" Who is that ?"

" Can I answer your question ?"
" OK ....  tell me "

" The answer is 'GOD' "
" How do you know that?"
" Yes, I know, because I am the GOD"

" Really?... Interesting?..... Then why you are not visible to me? "
" Because you don't want to see me..... "

" Is it so? .... Crazy! .... Then how come I can hear you?

" Because I want you to hear me....."

" OK ...... now I got it ...... You are correct ...... You are GOD"

55 words # 3

Note:- 55 Fiction infers to fictional writings bounded to a maximum of fifty-five words.

Questions-1

A young camel is asking her mom .....

" Why do we have  long eyelashes, ear hairs, seal-able nostrils ? "

"...to form a barrier against sand in desert"

" Why widened feet? "

"... to move without sinking into the sand"

 " Why our mouth is very sturdy ?"

  "...to chew thorny desert plants "

" Then why we are in a zoo now ??? "